Sara’s Blog

Are We Ready for the Stay-at-Home Dad?

There is so much to think of the potential for stay-at-home dads now in the 21st century. There is so much to be respected in a man who is willing to stay home without a career, or at least making a career of raising his children and caring for the home. I wonder if I would ever be that brave, especially considering my doubt and fear in marriage. There is so much to consider in relying one hundred percent on someone else for financial support when there is always the possibility that a relationship can end at the drop of a hat.  

I think that there is so much more about myself that had the willingness to handle both sides of parenthood, caring for my son, my home, my career and every ounce of life all on my own. I don’t think I was ever brave enoughdad 2 to rely on someone else completely to handle another part of my life. So, after centuries of male family leadership, there are now men who are willing to rely upon a strong and supporting woman to handle some of those more dependent family issues.

I can only see an image of what it may be like for a young father, who has let his wife keep her career out of the house, attempt to manage all of the in-home chaos that can come with raising children and caring for all those daily tasks that would drive even me insane. I even find working at home alone all day sometimes to be the most chaotic and crazy tasks, as I am definitely not a domestic individual by nature. When it comes to tasks such as cleaning the dishes or laundry, or vacuuming the rugs, I know that I can become more frustrated and angry than I ever did in an office working for a boss.

There is something about being at home that makes me feel like I have less control odad 3ver what I am trying to do than every minute I ever spent in an office career where every minute of my day was planned out by someone else. I know that there is something about men thinking they need to be in control of every part of their life, and I can definitely respect any one of them who is willing to relinquish this much control to someone else… especially to a woman. 

Am I brave enough to relinquish control myself? I know I always wonder if I will meet someone, but I think that so many men can see this about me. That I need to control my life and that I have basically always been this way. Hell, I even admire women who have been brave enough throughout the centuries to trust and depend upon another individual to handle all of those essential pieces of a life together. Why can’t I do that? Why are there now men who are able to do just that and I am still holding on so tightly to control of my own life? dad 4

I know that I initially started writing about stay-at-home dads and I have wandered over to the discussion of all stay-at-home parents completely. We like to think that there is something convenient in the ability to work from home while also staying home with our children. But it can be a tough and scary world out there. So many options to work from home are complete crap, and others don’t want to pay crap.

 

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Literature for the Woman

I sometimes wonder what the most educational experience of my collegiate and professional career has been. My greatest love has always been learning more about literature and experiencing all corners of the literary field from different perspectives, especially from women and those who have been willing to break historical barriers with their work. Over the years I have most grown to love the works of Erica Jong, both after and before many others who were willing to fight the traditions of American culture and politics. fear of flying - erica jong

I wonder if I could achieve the greatness as a writer as I have seen from women such as Erica Jong and many other historically great poets and authors that we studied in courses in college. Is it as easy to reach the mind of others with the written word as it once was? Do I have the talent and skills that I believe I have gained through education, desire and practice? It is amazing to hear of the incredible success of Erica Jong’s first novel Fear of Flying when she was a little younger than I am now and creating a novel from the same perspective that she took with her main character as her own doppelganger. I know that several of my novel topics are based off of the various intriguing life experiences that I have ventured, hoping that I may be able to touch the lives of other women across the world with enterwomen in littainment, emotion and inspiration..

The word Feminism rises into the conversation when the question of women’s lives and ventures are being discussed. I don’t know if I would consider myself a feminist or not, but I know that I do believe in the ideals of women and their right to own and be everything that their male family, friends and colleagues are. I know there are so many questions to the equality of the sexes professionally, including the creative sciences, and I hope that I have the potential to achieve the same greatness as any male author in history, as well as the female authors I love. I love to think that I have the ability to move forward to the greatness of any male or female writer that I love, and that is more than simple feminism. We all have the right to wonderful careers, and any young woman can make the choice to move ahead for herself.

https://ir-na.amazon-adsystem.com/e/ir?t=saramcwriter-20&l=am2&o=1&a=1250065917I know that all women have this right in their careers, no matter what their chosen path, and I was so happy for my aunt to hear recently at dinner that due to the President of her University re-evaluating equality across the board for their professors that she would be getting a thirty percent raise and increased benefits. It’s not just about being a woman in a certain field, but about the field of study, and we all deserve to be treated on the same plane. I love it! I can only hope the same for myself and all other women, although I do know that in my writing ventures I will have to play a huge role in my advancements for myself. Take advantage, all of you, and follow your dreams to the full end!

 

Feminism and Literature – My Dream Equals Anyone’s

I sometimes wonder what the most educational experience of my collegiate and professional career has been. My greatest love has always been learning more about literature and experiencing all corners of the literary field from different perspectives, especially from women and those who have been willing to break historical barriers with their work. Over the years I have most grown to love the works of Erica Jong, both after and before many others who were willing to fight the traditions of American culture and politics. feminism 1

I wonder if I could achieve the greatness as a writer as I have seen from women such as Erica Jong and many other historically great poets and authors that we studied in courses in college. Is it as easy to reach the mind of others with the written word as it once was? Do I have the talent and skills that I believe I have gained through education, desire and practice? It is amazing to hear of the incredible success of Erica Jong’s first novel Fear of Flying when she was a little younger than I am now, and creating a novel from the same perspective that she took with her main character as her own doppelganger. I know that several of my novel topics are based off of the various intriguing life experiences that I have ventured, hoping that I may be able to touch the lives of other women across the world with entertainment, emotion and inspiration.

The word Feminism rises into the conversation when the question of women’s lives and ventures are being discussed. I don’t know if I would consider myself a feminist or not, but I know that I do believe in the ideals of women and their right to own and be everything that their male family, friends and colleagues are. I know there are so many questions to the equality of the sexes professionally, including the creative sciences, and I hope that I have the potential to achieve the same greatness as any male author in history, as well as the female authors I love. I love to think that I have the ability to move forward to the greatness of any male or female writer that I love, and that is more than simple feminism. We all have the right to wonderful careers, and any young woman can make the choice to move ahead for herself. 

I know that all women have this right in their careers, no matter what their chosen path, and I was so happy for my aunt to hear recently at dinner that due to the President of her University re-evaluating equality across the board for their professors that she would be getting a thirty percent raise and increased benefits. It’s not just about being a woman in a certain field, but about the field of study, and we all deserve to be treated on the same plane. I love it! I can only hope the same for myself and all other women, although I do know that in my writing ventures I will have to play a huge role in my advancements for myself. Take advantage, all of you, and follow your dreams to the full end!

 

Is There Such a Thing as a GOOD Goodbye?

 There are so many different supposed “easy” ways to breakup or say goodbye to someone, but is there ever the possibility that it is really “good”? I don’t think there is ever a way that parting ways with someone who is so much a part of your life to be a partner and beloved, at least I have never been able to come up with one.goodbye

Thinking of the fact that honesty is always the best policy is one way to at least partially assume that there is a way for a goodbye with another loved one to be decent. But, honestly, how many of us really ever do that? How many of us have ever really had that approach taken with us?

I know that most of the men that I have supposedly dated over the past ten years or so always used the point of view that they just weren’t looking for a serious relationship, or that it wasn’t the right time, or something lame and tormented in that form. Then I would only see within a couple of weeks on Facebook or some other pathetic social media site with pictures of him with his new beloved, beautiful girlfriend scattered all over to the public. And then I start to ask myself consistently, “Why was the time not right so recently? Why was the time not right with me? Why was the time alright to hop in the sac, but not to spend any real and meaningful time together?” And so things have continued for years now.

I have seen many of my friends and exes get married for years now, and I have remained dateless for almost eight years now. Even attempting the shadiest perspective, the online dating world, I get blown off, ignored or just flat out stood up. They provide interest, often make plans, and then turn out to be the same shitty man that everyone else in the world has presented himself to me.

Why do men think that it is somehow the most positive form of deference is simply to stop returning texts, calls, emails or any other form of communication. For some reason just running away in silence is the most decent method of ending a collaboration of any sort is to simply disappear. No matter the time period of my life it seems that so many males have proven themselves to be this sort of shithead in any manner.